Self-talk is your inner voice that always appears to be active. It is perpetually “telling” you what you should do, what you might do, and reflecting on things you have already done. It valuates what you do while you are executing it, offering opinions and proposing workable ramifications and final result. This is a type of internal monologue which psychologists have described and labeled as “self-talk”.
To acquire abettor estimation of just what self-talk is, psychologist Susan Krauss Whitbourne equates self talk to the “equivalent of sports announcers commenting on a player’s successes or failures on the playing field.” Opposed to athletes that never hear a television or radio sports commentator’s voice, you definitely “hear” what your self-talk is telling you.
Unfortunately, this inner voice you appear to have no control of can at times be negative.
Toy with the last time you did something embarrassing. You may have had self-talk telling you how dumb you were. Sometimes it is crucial even if you have done nothing wrong. Self-talk cues you that you are likely going to mess up, because you have done it in the past.
As it turns out, you can react with negative and positive self-talk to the same situation. It all depends upon how you conduct your sentiments. For example, make believe that you have just finished eaten at a restaurant that all your friends think is amazing. You thought it was overpriced, the food was average at best, the service reeked and you had to wait too long for your food.
You find yourself at a party with your friends, when several of them corner you and excitedly ask you what you thought about the restaurant they recommended. You tell them your feelings, holding nothing back. They all say you are crazy, that it is the greatest restaurant of all time.
Your inner talks can respond in two different ways.
Perhaps you tell yourself, “Why didn’t you just keep your mouth shut!? Now you look like an idiot.” In response to the exact same situation, you could choose positive, constructive self-talk instead. You could say, “Good for you, for sticking to your beliefs. You reported exactly what happened, you didn’t overstate the situation, and it’s okay if your friends disagree with you about this unimportant topic.”
Psychologists believe that systematically talking to oneself in a positive, structural direction can develop your mind to respond that way. At the start you won’t find yourself capable of redirect your inner voice. It will simply blurt an unconscious response. Even so, by continually evaluating dysfunctional self-talk and turn it around, you create less stress in your life, boost your self-respect, and feel good about your inner dialogue.
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